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In the last three months I’ve been called different names and tagged with different labels.
Too expressive. Antagonistic. Great public speaker. Great writer. Influential (barf!). Understanding even.
Unfortunately, I had a knee-jerk response and the next thing I uttered was, “What? I’ve never been called that before. Ever!” What happened next was even stranger; I proceeded to do an audit of my entire life.
Now there’s no way I would allow strangers color my entire life based on a moment’s interaction, would I? Who would do that? Hmm…
Listen, no one is immune to people pleasing. It all starts with setting the intention to receive positive criticism and being introspective. But when you find your voice weakened and drowned by opinions that don’t serve your purpose, your mindset is the first to suffer a hit.
Your mind is very fragile. When you repeatedly subject it to conscious and unconscious messages, it forms a permanent groove in your mind.
The act of filtering messages doesn’t only apply to verbal messages. It also applies to sensory messages, and in this case, I’m talking about messages that you have internalized and have become your 6th, 7th, and 8th sense.
So, how do you protect your mind from getting attacked by negative thoughts and micro-messages from others? What do you need to stop telling yourself if you want a winning mindset?
1) “I was not expecting that.”
Here’s the point: Be open to criticism.
There is nothing more relieving than developing the awareness that whenever you present a compelling argument or pitch, you are exposed and vulnerable. And this isn’t totally bad!
Get comfortable with the idea of being under the watchful eyes of other people. It takes the novelty of being shunted by criticism out of the equation, leaving you to deal with the next tip.
2) “I always mess up. I am so dumb.”
Here’s the point: You messed up. Move on.
You made a little mistake and all of a sudden you’re wondering if you’re smarter than a 5th grader. As humans, we have the tendency to ruminate over our failures, play back images of us stuttering during presentations, or spend the entire hour thinking about how we could’ve perfected the last email we sent.
This is usually an emotional defense mechanism that kicks into place when we perceive that our performance will be criticized by others. But it is a critical spirit, and only is this unproductive, it is damaging to your mindset.
3) “I wonder who hates my guts in this place.”
Here’s the point: Some people will not like you. Get over it!
What’s the point in wasting precious brain sugar thinking about how poorly received you will be at an event? Do you really want to know what everyone is thinking about you?
This anxious and fearful habit is dysfunctional and toxic. It is limiting and crippling. Constantly chewing on this thought will bring you no good luck. It messes with your confidence before you even get a start.
4) “This might seem stupid but…”
Here’s the point: Stop apologizing. Say what you want to say.
Why water down your opinion and argument with statements that have the potential to reduce your credibility? Let me guess: you think your statement will be outrageous so you don’t want people to dislike you for it.
I get it. You want to be seen as a team player, as someone who is perceptive of how she is viewed by others. But you need to stop stripping yourself off of your purposeful presence and impact just to be likeable.
5) “What if I don’t succeed? I’m never going to…”
Here’s the point: Start again!
This Just because you’ve failed at something once never means you’re disqualified. The road doesn’t morph into a jungle just because you have failed. You HAVE to start again!
When you fixate on your failures, it is hard to see the beauty, uniqueness and opportunities that repetition offers.
I know, it is a constant battle within that you have to fight.
That is why I want to introduce you to this amazing woman called Coach Kemi.
CoachKemi is a Thought Transformation Expert and Founder of How2Think. If you’re wondering how exactly she helps her clients achieve their long standing goals while other individuals are continually frustrated and stuck; stagnant and disillusioned, you need to attend this Webinar.
If you want to stop being restricted and caged in; if you want to know how to stop the Battle raging in your mind and you want to have a sense of accomplishment in your life time, and you want to learn how to stop being fear-full, then register to attend this Webinar.
I know the time is short, but when CoachKemi told me about this, I just had to get it across to you immediately!
CoachKemi has been working with Women in various positions – CEOs, Coaches, Consultants, Entrepreneurs, Widows, Parents, etc. and getting fantastic results, and she is now holding this Webinar to serve as many will attend. She is a woman who ‘lives her talk.’ I know, I have seen her do it.
I will be interviewing CoachKemi –you want to hear her story and you will also learn:
- The Shortest Way To Stop The Raging Battle Within
- The 4-Step Process Everyone Should Know To Reach Their Goals Every Time
- How The Butterfly Relates To You
- Thought Transformation – The Easy Way
So even if you have been finding it hard to achieve your dreams and purposes; seem to be going round in circles; fearful of success, failure or the unknown, CoachKemi is going to show you how to move forward, achieve your dreams and never be stuck or stagnant again.
REGISTER HERE:
http://app.webinarjam.net/register/20862/dd1e501269
Remember, the date is Wednesday, 16th November at 8pm CST.
See you there. And come early.
HERE IS THE LINK AGAIN:
http://app.webinarjam.net/register/20862/dd1e501269
See you there!